"As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others"
Photo: Fingal Head, December 2016
We are all each other's mirrors. The more comfortable we are with stepping into our light as well as sitting with our dark, shadow side, not only we become freer and more aligned with our life purpose, but we also enable others to embrace their life's story and express their potential.
There is a tremendous power that comes from witnessing other's vulnerability... and strength for that matter.
When we see another in their weak or low moment, we get enabled to embrace our own humanness. It shows us that it is okay to not always be okay, to feel low and shitty and being vulnerable. And we can be safe in that state. And not be judged when we are trying to work things out. It’s part of human existence to experience the whole spectrum of emotions. None of which are in fact good or bad. They are just energy triggered by life experience that passes through us. The more we allow it to flow freely, the healthier, freer and more peaceful we become, which in turn helps us to be more balanced and centered. When we are in that coherent state, living life starts to feel more effortless. With less confusion and more clarity it is easy to make better choices and become less reactive and more responsive to all that life throws at us.
Likewise, seeing another’s manifestation of strength and creative power can be extremely inspiring.
And I am obviously not talking here about someone's domination or abuse of power. We all have come here with unique gifts and abilities. However, the conditioning we have been exposed to, i.e. upbringing, the beliefs and rules of our family, social, educational and cultural structures coupled with historical heritage and life experience may have made us forget this inner knowing. We have been made to believe that it is better to be alike, conform and that a success of one would come at another’s cost. Our need for safety has been used to manipulate us and to build a reality based on competition where only a few can be on top and successful. Hence we find losing ourselves in a draining battle, a race to reach that illusionary top or at least higher level to find a sense of fulfillment. Until we wake up and realise that by collaborating and playing to our strengths we can achieve more. This is called the power of synergy. Where the value of the whole is greater than the sum of its parts.
The moment we come into deep understanding of this truth, we stop feeling threatened by another's success.
Rather we get inspired and enabled. The success of the other is an invitation to embrace our own potential. It is only us who can be successful in delivering our life purpose. We all have come here with a unique mission. A unique contribution to life that only we can make. The more we understand that, the more the notion of competition dissolves. There is no one to compete against. We can relax and connect with who we are and the gifts we have to share with the world. We stop looking outside and unknowingly borrow others’ definition of success. As only by going in we can understand what it is that makes our soul sing.
Embracing the soul’s song will lead us to live a meaningful and fulfilling life.
Read my poem Sisterhood for deep soul inspiration.
In the next blog post I will delve into how we become capable of seeing other without projecting our story onto them, so that not only we can offer them a gift of being fully seen, held and accepted without judgement and with unconditional love, but also enable ourselves to understand and harness the message that is being mirrored to us. Subscribe below to receive the post straight to your email box, as soon as it is published.